Good Thoughts

Maybe God wants us to meet a few wrong people before meeting the right one so that when we finally meet the right person, we will know how to be grateful for that gift.
When the door of happiness closes, another opens, but often times we look so long at the closed door that we don't see the one which has been opened for us.
The best kind of friend is the kind you can sit on a porch and swing with, never say a word, and then walk away feeling like it was the best conversation you've ever had.
It's true that we don't know what we've got until we lose it, but it's also true that we don't know what we've been missing until it arrives.
Giving someone all your love is never an assurance that they'll love you back! Don't expect love in return; just wait for it to grow in their heart but if it doesn't, be content it grew in yours. It takes only a minute to get a crush on someone, an hour to like someone, and a day to love someone, but it takes a lifetime to forget someone.
Don't go for looks; they can deceive. Don't go for wealth; even that fades away. Go for someone who makes you smile because it takes only a smile to make a dark day seem bright. Find the one that makes your heart smile.
There are moments in life when you miss someone so much that you just want to pick them from your dreams and hug them for real!
Dream what you want to dream; go where you want to go; be what you want to be, because you have only one life and one chance to do all the things you want to do.
May you have enough happiness to make you sweet, enough trials to make you strong, enough sorrow to keep you human, enough hope to make you happy.
Always put yourself in others' shoes. If you feel that it hurts you, it probably hurts the other person, too.
The happiest of people don't necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the most of everything that comes along their way.
Happiness lies for those who cry, those who hurt, those who have searched, and those who have tried, for only they can appreciate the importance of people who have touched their lives. Love begins with a smile, grows with a kiss and ends with a tear. The brightest future will always be based on a forgotten past, you can't go on well in life until you let go of your past failures and heartaches.
When you were born, you were crying and everyone around you was smiling. Live your life so that when you die, you're the one who is smiling and everyone around you is crying.

Angry & Nice Illusion

Here are the instructions for seeing this illusion effectively:
Look at the image as you normally would.

On the left, you see an angry man. On the right, you see a nice woman.

Now, stand up from your chair and keep distancing yourself from the monitor until the nice woman is on the left and the angry man is on the right.

Can you tell me how this is done?

Mr Paul Watson of Sea Shepherd Conservation Society recently described how the fishing of cod has drastically altered the web of life in the North Atlantic

http://www.seashepherd.org/editorials/editorial_050611_1.html

SKI 360

anyone been to the ski 360 at east coast??
i went there last fri. haha... got some photos but wont show u all. :P
go there. its fun.

Captain Jack Sparrow been to Singapore

nah... it cant be...

for those who oreaddi watch da pirates movie ah.
got one scene when Willian Turner (aka ur all handsome Orlando Bloom) toking to one fella.
da fella tot him Jack was last seen in Singapore.
all rite.. tat got da whole cinema laughing...
and those who haven watch it. DO. and i say again, DO STAY till the credits are over.
got small unexpected ending.. (hehe)

da movie is worth watching. now hopefully they won let me wait too long for part 3..

before and after

hmmm... comparing my previous tri. so hao lian here abit ah.
on the left is NB corporate tri 2005 did only 20km.
On my old bike. was super panting when i finish.
Right is the recent OSIM tri. i doubled the distance. (40km)
increased my average speed. ok the bike makes a difference.
its a newer bike with better parts.
i changed my training pattern too. wasnt even panting when i finish.
woah.. nice..
so up next i might make a few more upgrades to my bike. improve my average speed.
hehehe... next up wud be either the next NB tri or the local biking races.. hehehehe

DID I MARRY THE RIGHT PERSON?

This is a very good article. read it.
Those who are still single may learn something from here....
Those who are already married may take it as a guideline to improve your
marriage....

DID I MARRY THE RIGHT PERSON?
During one of our seminars, a woman asked a common question.
She said, "How do I know if I married the right person?"
I noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so I said,
"It depends. Is that your husband?"
In all seriousness, she answered "How do you know?"

Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it's weighing on your mind.

Here's the answer.
EVERY relationship has a cycle.
In the beginning, you fell in love with your spouse.
You anticipated their call, wanted their touch, and liked their idiosyncrasies.

Falling in love with your spouse wasn't hard.
In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience.
You didn't have to DO anything.
That's why it's called "falling" in love...

Because it's happening TO YOU.

People in love sometimes say, "I was swept of my feet."
Think about the imagery of that expression.
It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something came along and happened TO YOU.

Falling is love is easy.
It's a passive and spontaneous experience.
But after a few years of marriage, the euphoria of love fades.
It's the natural cycle of EVERY relationship.
Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts.

The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship, but if you think about your marriage, you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.

At this point, you and/or your spouse might start asking, "Did I marry the right person?"
And as you and your spouse reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else.
This is when marriages breakdown.
People blame their spouse for their unhappiness and look outside their marriage for
fulfillment.

Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes.
Infidelity is the most obvious.
But sometimes people turn to work,a hobby, a friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances.

But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your marriage.
It lies within it.
I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else.
You could.

And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better.
But you'd be in the same situation a few years later.
Because (listen carefully to this):

THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN MARRIAGE IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON; IT'S LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND.


SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience.
It'll NEVER just happen to you.
You can't "find" LASTING love.
You have to "make" it day in and day out.
That's why we have the expression; "the labor of love."

Because it takes time, effort, and energy.
And most importantly, it takes WISDOM.
You have to know WHAT TO DO to make your marriage work.


Make no mistake about it.
Love is NOT a mystery.
There are specific things you can do (with or without your spouse) to succeed with your marriage.


Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships.
Just as the right diet and exercise program makes you physically stronger, certain habits in your relationship WILL make your marriage stronger.
It's a direct cause and effect.
If you know and apply the laws, the results are predictable...you can "make" love.


Love in marriage is indeed a "decision"... Not just a feeling.

You'll Only Know Pain After You Have Loved 爱到才知痛

I hear already my bak sai also lao, man.

Olympic Distance Team Open Relay.

Pos.23
Bib R281
Name Jim TAN MING CHIEH, WONG SOON MENG, James NG CHOON HIONG
Nationality Singapore
Swim 00:37:44
Bike 01:16:34
Run 00:52:35
Total 02:46:52 23

23rd place out of 57... average results... but lucky not bottom placed.. haha.
compared to 1st place from the Philippines;
swim 00:22:35, bike 01:00:37, run 00:38:42, total 02:01:53

wah sai.. gotta work harder loh..
swim more tough wen u gotta swim and kena kicked by others, Jim i salute u leh.. u survived it!! lol...
mann.. the bugger on the bike was ahead of me 16mins.. can say he averaging 40km/h which is very very good. I onli averaging 34km/hr sad sad sad...
their runner lagi best. 38min run 10km.. tis guy got no lungs issit. James, u gotta run more loh..

2nd and 3rd placing were Singaporeans. go! SG!! lol..
all results here

OSIM TRI

Osim tri, 2nd july
East coast park.

Olympic distance relay event
our team:
Jim Tan; Swimmer 1.5km
Your ah Beng; Cyclist 40km
James Ng; Runner 10km

as u can see tis event is an international event. spanning over 2 days. And the organisers were so kind as to arrange for us to race on 1210 hrs!!! wad bloody timing. lol.. but challenging too.

waiting for the photos and official race times to be announce then i'll post them here. and more of the race too. :)